Many want to know the reason why married men step out of their marriages for a night of sexual pleasure. The reasons are many and varied, which we will outline below.
1. Connection beyond the physical (emotional)
One man I know said he knew his marriage was doomed when his wife wouldn’t listen to music with him like they used to. Many married men are in need of an emotional connection that is missing in their marriages. It is also reported that sex is better when the emotional connection is there, which is why affairs can last for years at a time.
2. No baggage
What do I mean by this? Many married men will choose to have extramarital sex with cheap escorts because they do not want the emotional baggage that comes with a girlfriend. Baggage involves attachments with those people you have slept with. With escorts, they know that this is more of a business transaction and also that escorts are not allowed to have any kind of attachment with clients. This saves a married man the trouble of dealing with late night calls from girlfriends and also the threat of coming to break up your marriage.
3. Madonna or whore
Men have categorized women into these two types. They choose this Madonna one where they say she is the pure one and more sacred for marriage then go out for sex with a whore who can perform any kind of sexual act that can please them. With the whore, he is more comfortable and free to do anything that he would not ask the wife to do for him during sex. They argue that they would rather maintain the sacredness and purity of their wives, and then obtain chandelier-swinging sex from escorts.
4. Being in control when it comes to sex
It is said that once these men marry the pleasure that comes with control of sex is lost. Why? This is because they report that their wives tend to say when, where and even how it is supposed to happen. This annoys men because they want to be in control of their sex lives. Due to this they pay for sex, because paying for sex comes with power and control of how, when and where it is to be done.
5. The feeling of being wanted
Most married men crave this feeling of being wanted. They ask for sex from their wives because they want that feeling. It saddens them when they are the ones who do the wanting while their wives place conditions when it comes to sex.
Some couples engage in an open relationship where their wives give them the permission to pay some other person for sex. Weird right? They will argue that it saves the marriage a great loss; giving up something that you have taken even years to build because of sexual desires.